How long have you been involved in (the particular kink/fetish you will be teaching about and how did you get involved?
I have been involved in the kink lifestyle for over 20 years. I first got involved because as a go-go dancer in San Francisco, I found the fetish attire beautiful and then someone educated me on what it all meant. From there, I was all in and ready to get involved into doing more! I think it definitely helped to be in San Francisco at the time. Currently, I’m a part of a kink/leather organization, ONYX Pearls Southeast that mentors and educates young women of color into being involved in the kink community.
What advice would you give your younger self when you started exploring this type of play?
The advice I would give my younger self would be to be open on all the different types of fetishes. As a young person, I was definitely conservative in my thoughts in what I deemed “appropriate,” but as I’ve aged, I now know that limiting myself definitely puts a damper on how certain things could improve my life. Spanking, slapping, and choking is sexy and now I’m here to really prove it!
How has your play evolved?
I tend to attract vanilla partners, so my play has evolved in aspects of intimacy and how to be intimate with others when it comes to kink. The ways in which I can ultimately have genuine care and concern for someone have helped me grow in the ways that I see kink in my life and I’m happy that I have a partner that is able to understand that aspect of me and respect it, accordingly.
What do you love about sharing your kink or fetish with others?
I love seeing the light bulbs go off in my student’s heads! When that happens, I see that they have real joy in knowing that they can also evolve with their sexuality. When I see someone who says that ordinarily they wouldn’t like it, but they love the way that I perform it on them, that totally makes my day and reassures me that this is what I was put on this earth to do.