Representation Matters

If you have connections with clubs, venues, or really, ANY organizations or companies with employees please use your connections to pressure them to align and act with this racial justice movement and seek DEI training for owners and staff, as well as representation in your organizations. The PDX Stripper Strike is leading by demanding fair treatment and equal stage opportunities, accountability, and restorative justice in the local clubs in Portland. Be sure to support the clubs who have signed on, and pressure/boycott the clubs who have not. You can also donate to the collective action.

We have been investing more time in our own direct actions and anti-racist education. We will be joining this upcoming series hosted by Marla Renee Stewart and Luna MatatasRace & Kink: A Bi-Weekly Discussion Series. We hope you will join us too! TICKETS HERE.

Upcoming Online Events & Classes

WEBINAR: FemDom Bootcamp
Distance Domination Part II: July 2nd, 6-8pm PDT
How can we better flirt remotely, tease, torment, and bond with our dominants and submissives? Our powerful band of experienced FemDom & badasses (Mistress Mia Darque, Natasha, and Daddy An-Li) will tackle the subject along with some of our trusted submissives who will weigh in on the experience from the other side, with live demos! If you missed Part I of this series, never fear, we will review. Note: webinars are participatory in chat only, you will not be onscreen. TICKETS.

Intro to Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) with Luna Matatas
Thursday July 16th, 4-5:30pm PDT
There’s a delicious line between pleasure and pain. As extreme as cock and ball torture (CBT) may sound, the spectrum of pleasure for the penis and testicles is diverse and full of fun. The pleasure for the giver of CBT can also be a delicious dimension of sexuality to explore. Luna Matatas is a Sex, Confidence and Pleasure Educator with over 10 years of experience in sexual health and wellness internationally and locally. TICKETS.

STFU & QUINK! Online – Kinky Play Party
July 18th, 8-10:30pm PDT
Viola’s monthly queer kink play party is combined for July with her monthly FemDom play party. This is an invite-only, vetted online play party for queer kinksters and femdoms and their submissives which begins with featured guests & performances and includes kinky cruising and networking games and well as highlighted steamy onscreen kink scenes. Performers TBD but guest Marla Renee Stewart confirmed to join us so get ready to be dazzled, delighted and seduced. View details here but email violaplease@gmail.com for link to register as we are vetting attendees and will want to know who you are. 

Kink & Revolution

What a monumental set of circumstances have brought us to this point in history, a moment of collective trauma, activation, shift, rage, sorrow, and hopefully, radical change. We recognize large gaps in our understanding of racism and have committed to anti-racist education for ourselves, but we need to do better. It is more than talk and education that is needed.

As sex workers/educators we live an already political life, combating the intersections of shame, sex-negativity, and sex work discrimination, but not a single one of us white or white-passing people can truly understand what Black people are dealing with in this country, the violence and the silence they have had to endure. 

BLACK LIVES MATTER & BLACK TRANS LIVES MATTER. But it isn’t enough to say this, we are committed to doing the internal work to disrupt racism and white fragility, educating the other white people we have access to, activating our sphere of influence, using our privilege, and donating money and time to these causes for Black lives and Black futures.

Sub Rosa stands also with the PDX Stripper Strike – a labor movement demanding fair treatment of Black dancers at strip clubs in Portland. We have endorsed and have committed to doing more DEI training with our members as well as pushing for the other organizations/clubs/venues that we work with to do the same.

Some other places you can start/support: buy and hire services from Portland POC-owned businesses, donate to direct aid with Portland’s Equitable Giving Circle, read: this antiracist reading list, watch this movie: The 13th, donate to organizations that support Black trans folks (recognizing the underreported recent murders), PUSH for your companies and organizations to enlist the services of this local DEI training group: Empress Rules Equity Consulting, or find a Black-led DEI consulting group.

This is so important right now, our Black and Indigenous friends cannot wait for us to act any longer. 

love and strength and spanks, 

Viola & Natasha

Covid: A New Normal

A friend of Sub Rosa’s, Dr Evelin Dacker, recently posted this article on opening up social circles in the days to come. We encourage you to read it to help you understand your risks, and those of your social circle to stay safe as things reopen.

We are in the process of creating processes to keep ourselves and our renters safe.

We are watching the news to stay informed as to what the best practices are in businesses like ours. Currently we are available to regular vetted renters who are quarantined together. We are asking that people arrive in masks to greet us, and refrain from using the public toys for now. If there are toys you usually borrow from us, let us know and we can have them out for you.

We are taking care to wipe surfaces down with Clorox wipes – especially those heavy touch areas like door knobs, sink knobs, toilet handles. We are asking you to do the same at the end of your play time. Of course we clean all surfaces after you leave as well, but we don’t know what you’ve been up to during your stay so taking care to clean up after yourselves will at worst, leave some places doubly cleaned, which isn’t a bad thing in the time of Covid.

Classes and other social gatherings like 50 Shades of STFU and Quink will continue, but online. We are just starting to add classes to the roster, so check back often!

We will be using our blog, as well as our newsletter to keep you up to date on our current policies. If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out.

Interview with Marla Renee Stewart aka Miss Marla

Marla Renee Stewart | Miss Marla

How long have you been involved in (the particular kink/fetish you will be teaching about and how did you get involved?

I have been involved in the kink lifestyle for over 20 years. I first got involved because as a go-go dancer in San Francisco, I found the fetish attire beautiful and then someone educated me on what it all meant. From there, I was all in and ready to get involved into doing more! I think it definitely helped to be in San Francisco at the time. Currently, I’m a part of a kink/leather organization, ONYX Pearls Southeast that mentors and educates young women of color into being involved in the kink community.

What advice would you give your younger self when you started exploring this type of play?

The advice I would give my younger self would be to be open on all the different types of fetishes. As a young person, I was definitely conservative in my thoughts in what I deemed “appropriate,” but as I’ve aged, I now know that limiting myself definitely puts a damper on how certain things could improve my life. Spanking, slapping, and choking is sexy and now I’m here to really prove it!

How has your play evolved?

I tend to attract vanilla partners, so my play has evolved in aspects of intimacy and how to be intimate with others when it comes to kink. The ways in which I can ultimately have genuine care and concern for someone have helped me grow in the ways that I see kink in my life and I’m happy that I have a partner that is able to understand that aspect of me and respect it, accordingly.

What do you love about sharing your kink or fetish with others?

I love seeing the light bulbs go off in my student’s heads! When that happens, I see that they have real joy in knowing that they can also evolve with their sexuality. When I see someone who says that ordinarily they wouldn’t like it, but they love the way that I perform it on them, that totally makes my day and reassures me that this is what I was put on this earth to do.

Read more about here at www.MarlaReneeStewart.com.

She will be teaching The Charm of Choking on June 17th.